How to survive dating a soldier

02 Jul

Here are some of the comments I have received about deployment and its impact on relationships. Everything was going great the first half of the deployment, then out of nowhere he starts to become distant and disconnected.

Anonymous wrote: Guys usually don’t communicate the way women do. The best I would get was a “miss you Babe” on a phone call. Then he tells me that he doesn’t know if he has the same feelings for me anymore.

) This will set-up guidelines and give you a sense of security knowing your relationship status.

If you are going to date someone who is a member of the military, part-time or full-time here are a few things to consider and be ready for: 1) If you are someone who needs a boyfriend or girlfriend at your side at all times or their constant attention and affection, a military spouse life is not going to be a great choice for you.

Mike is a former US Army Captain with two tours of duty in Iraq and Afghanistan.

Mike shares openly about some of the struggles and how to overcome them when your loved one is deployed.

He’s in the Navy and deployed somewhere in the Middle East… This trip he’s on now has been awful since he has minimal communication opportunities, so I understand how the doubt can creep in. if they make it through the training and first deployment they can make it through anything.

I’ve asked one of our partners, Mike Jones, to talk about loved ones on deployment.

This is a given in the military and other professions like medical, fire and law enforcement.

You will move a lot, potentially in far flung places around the world. 5) If you have a very defined career path that requires a specific location & number of years spent in one place a military partnership will make that very difficult. If you want a big career that demands you live in a particular area, or long years in one place, don't date people in the service.

6) If you have a lot of anxiety and worry a lot, being a military spouse may not be something you are built for.

We’ve had a problem with _____, but we’ve got it under control. The FRG (Family Resource Group) is there when I need to talk about Army stuff. If you can hang onto that kind of perspective, things are going to be a lot easier.

The worst thing is fighting the battle of deployment and fighting one another at the same time.